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New Beginnings with Gayla - Clearing the Fog Series – Define Yourself

NewBeginnings Gayla 03KENTUCKY (6/8/13) - The last two articles have been about unveiling certain untruths that we may have grown to believe. This series was inspired by a dream that I had. My dream consisted of seeing a pretty lady walking down a path in a beautiful white dress. As she was walking, mud started being thrown at her in all directions. Eventually, the mud completely covered her. When I woke up from this dream, my inner voice told me that the woman represented the beauty of her true self as she was walking peacefully along the path. The mud that was thrown on her represented all the negativity and false beliefs that came to her in life. As she stood there covered, she had allowed the mud (false belief) to saturate her beauty.

It seems that sometimes we go through life in a fog. Things are unclear and we are not able to see things for what they really are. My intent for these articles is to clear the fog of false belief, and to help uncover some of the lies that you may have come to believe as truth. So you can come closer to being the real you.

The first article of this series was about the untruth that we have to wait to be happy. The second article was about the untruth that we are different. This last article of the series is about the untruths that we may believe about ourselves.

What do you believe about yourself?

I used to believe that I was not pretty enough or smart enough. I used to push back my talent and ability because I felt that I was undeserving of them or that I would be made fun of. I felt undesirable. If people didn’t like it, it made me feel unwanted.

I now believe that I am worthy of love and acceptance. I don’t have to look like anyone but myself. I share my talent and abilities with the world because I believe that is why God gave them to me. I feel desirable and I enjoy my own company.

You may be asking, what changed for you? Here is what did NOT change – other people, society, my environment, and my situation. I changed. I sat down and asked myself these questions:
1. Is it really true that I am not smart enough? What is smart enough or pretty enough anyway?
2. If this is not an absolute truth, than why I am wasting valuable time (that I will not get back) on this issue?
3. Is there something about myself that I don’t like that I can change? If so, what am I waiting for?
4. Who says that my talents are of any less valuable than anyone else’s?
5. Did someone else tell me that I wasn’t good enough? If so, what was there life like? Were they happy?

See how this works? Instead of letting these false beliefs (mud) lead me wherever they may; I stopped the thought and challenged it head on. I didn’t run away or fight it, but I faced it. By facing your false beliefs, you begin to realize how wrong they are.

Do this exercise on your own. Grab a notebook and follow the outline above. Of course you can add any other questions to the list. As you dive deeper into these false beliefs, you will uncover all these claims that you have believed about yourself are lies. Remember, if it is not the absolute truth, than it is time to stop giving them any power over your life. Release them and set yourself free!

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”
                    Harvey Fierstein

Gayla
www.newlifebeginnings.us

I am thinking about starting a once a month internet radio show. The show will consist of discussing some of the topics of my column along with other inspiring topics. We would go more in depth than what I do in the column and also have guest speakers and call-ins.

Would you listen in?

Click the link below and let me know!

www.newlifebeginnings.us/Contact-Me.html


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